Self care is not selfish. Read that again.
You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else whether it’s your children, your husband, people at your job…anything. You have to take care of YOU. I have been trying to get better at my own self care lately. It’s hard sometimes because as a mom, I don’t wanna spend that $20 on myself because I know that I could get my kids something with that.
My husband is constantly telling me to just stop and do something for myself. So, I finally did. I went one night and got my nose pierced and it felt so good to do something for me and that I had been wanting. I know you’re probably thinking “you couldn’t just buy yourself a pair of jeans or something?” The answer is no because I have been wanting to get this done again for a long time. When I met my husband, I had it done and I loved it. It was taken out when I was about to give birth to Giovanni and I never got it re-done. I always wished that I had and so, I finally did.
That for me was a step in the right direction for doing something for myself every now and then. My kids deserve a momma who isn’t on edge all the time because she’s giving and giving from a cup that is empty. They deserve the momma who does the fun Pinterest activities, who makes cookies with them, who creates the memories rather than sends them on their way with the TV or tablet because she can’t take much more. Yes, that is who I was. I have vowed to make 2021 my year of self care and while I’ve had some moment where I could’ve done something for myself and chose not to, I am rectifying that now.
So, self care is NOT selfish. It’s simply just saying me too.
Yes, it’s so easy to get weighed down with all that we “have” to do that we actually have to pencil in some serious time for ourselves. Take care of you too, mama!
True! Self-care is necessary. We need to to relax and be kind to ourselves. Your husband is right!